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Gay Dating in your 20s is fucking miserable
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Seriously who said this shit was supposed to get better after highschool?
Guys are fucking cruel. The first date goes swell, they talk a lot of sweetness to you about how cute you are. Some even blow up your phone texting you. And then there's the inevitable flaked date (whether it's 2nd, 3rd, 4th etc.) that leads to a ghost. None of them are ever man enough to just tell you "Hey I think we should just see other people" or something polite. Like why are you even putting in the effort to text me if you're just gonna ghost me anyways? Why waste your own time and mine like that?
No guys around this age want something serious, it's really fucking weird. I guess everybody just wants to waste the prime of their lives mindlessly fucking instead of building meaningful connections. It feels like if you aren't into casual sex then there is nothing to be gained but disappointment at this stage in life.
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If you think it's gonna get better with age, ...I hate to be the bearer of bad news...
What was your "I'm dating a fucking idiot" moment?
Main Post: What was your "I'm dating a fucking idiot" moment?
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Got in a big fight with my girlfriend at the time because I saw a bear crossing sign and thought it was worth pointing out. She called me an idiot because there was no way there were possibly bears in Michigan. I reminded her that we were going to the Sleeping Bear Dunes. That made us discuss if there were bears in our hometown (also in MI). I said yes. She said there couldn't possibly be bears in our hometown and I'm stupid for thinking that. We got in some ridiculous fight about how she can't date an idiot. A week later, a car accident happened less than a mile from her house where the car hit a bear. I sent her the news article, and that's when another fight started.
Who’s dating who? who’s fucking who? who’s friends with who? : otvandfriendsrumors
Main Post: Who’s dating who? who’s fucking who? who’s friends with who? : otvandfriendsrumors
People of Reddit, what was your “I’m dating a fucking idiot” moment?
Main Post: People of Reddit, what was your “I’m dating a fucking idiot” moment?
Top Comment: He kept applying for jobs and getting denied instantly. At the time, I didn’t understand and was upset for him. Come to find out, this 26 year old was applying for jobs driving armored trucks for banks. With a record for stealing money from cash registers. I didn’t know at the time that he had ever been arrested, but this man literally had robbery and theft on his record, and couldn’t understand why an armored truck company wouldn’t hire him.
Online Dating is fucking brutal on mental health
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The last 3 girls I've planned to meet up with have flaked on me when it came to the day.
It's impossible not to be bitterly disappointed...if I were indifferent towards them I wouldn't have bothered sacrificing my time, energy and money to meet up. Every time I allow myself to get a bit excited (otherwise what's the point), and almost every time I seem to have that excitement spat back into my face
Naturally you begin to ask yourself what you're doing wrong - was it something you said? are you too boring? was it a crappy photo where you have serial killer eyes? Did they realize they weren't attracted to you?
To leave someone sitting at a restaurant or to block them after few dates... that's not some act of self-respect that's just fucking cowardly and callous behavior, unless you truly felt unsafe messaging them any further. Not to mention all the times people have tried to catfish and scam me - the girls who invite me to join their onlyfans when I thought they were interested in connecting as human beings, the girls who don't tell me they have 3 kids, who have gained 60lbs since they took the photos on their profiles and so on. It's such a minefield.
So I get the fuck off dating apps... well my friends don't know anyone to introduce me to and they rarely go out anymore, I don't meet anyone through work, and the last time I tried to approach a few girls when I was out they were so guarded and cold that I felt as though I'd ruined their day just by trying to make some friendly conversation, meetup groups are just full of single guys with the same idea... that basically just leaves solo visits to bars and clubs and social events, which I'd rather not do... so heigh ho back to the dating apps I go.
Fuck this. I wish I could suppress my hormones so I could cut dating and sex out of my life and focus on the things that bring me stable enjoyment.
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It’s not you man. Women have SO many options on dating apps.
Going after Keem for dating a 20 year old is fucking retarded
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Keem has done so many awful things in his time that anyone of those things would be valid to attack. Him dating a fucking adult isn't it though.
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All I have to say is, that word was a choice.
why do men think seeking arrangement is a fucking dating website???? like for funsies????
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the last week has been the most strange and frustrating. I spent a week going back and forth with some ugly bald fuck saying he will do something for me then just simply not, called me 5 times in a fucking night to talk about literally nothing, and was just all around sketchy (in the long run I'm kinda glad that didn't work out but that's another story) then, another guy reached out to me just to fuck/looking for something casual when tinder literally exists (he told me the last girl he talked to from the site didn't care about his wallet, which girl why are you on there then??? but ok.) Finally, I just had some bald fuck tell me the "site isn't for me" because I wouldn't go to his house in Illinois (about an hour and a half from me) in exchange for blow??????? what the FUCK is wrong with these people man. don't misconstrue what I'm saying and make it seem like I'm trying to sell myself for money or doing this cause I think it's trendy and it's not what I thought it would because I have been in and out of this line of work long enough to understand the ups and downs but goddamn. and I usually don't even get this bent out of shape over this kinda stuff but it's just been weirding me out more than anything. like what is in the air?????
EDIT: because some people can't get over the fact that i called the first guy an "ugly bald fuck" HE WAS BALD and HE WAS unattractive in my opinion. however; because i understand how this all works, i didn't care at that point because it was mutually beneficial. then he started wasting my time and giving me the run around. i don't like when people waste my time. I actually quite kind and sweet to everyone on a normal day to basis, but like most normal people i do get upset and frustrated especially when it's the same shit.
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I feel your frustration men on SA don’t even read my bio cause if they did they wouldn’t approach me on some bs. They want an escort not sugar baby (nothing wrong with that)
Last night a guy that refused to tell me what he wanted through text called me at 10:30. Mind you I’m already in bed, I have work in the morning. He asked if I’m free tonight as if it’s not a freaking monday night. Then I had to let him know I only meet during the day and only allow intimacy after a few dates to see if we have a connection. He said I’m not looking for a relationship well neither am I??? I’m just going through a vetting process to ensure my safety...I gotta stop giving out my text now number...